If you a reading this post, then you might already know NLP or probably researching NLP Techniques. Here I would like to enumerate 5 most powerful NLP techniques which have been beneficial to myself and millions of others.
Rapport Building: This is key to good relationships. Rapport is the level of trust that two people enjoy in a relationship. NLP has documented various ways of building rapport with others like matching and mirroring someone’s body language. e.g. sitting in almost the same posture that another person is sitting, matching his movements at subtle level etc. Matching other person’s representational systems and language keywords etc.
Anchoring: Anchoring happens naturally most of the time to us when we are in peak emotional states. For example a person always burying down his head in the palms of his hands whenever he is sad. When done repeatedly the burying head in the palms of the hands gets anchored to his sad state. Once the anchor is set, just burying the head in the palms of the hands brings about sad feelings (even if there is no need to be sad for him at that moment). Similarly certain odors or sight of a particular old amusement park ride may bring the memories of your childhood days to you and make you feel happy or nostalgic.
NLP has discovered that Anchors can be set intentionally as well. For example a person can set various physical anchors to get into highly motivated high energy state and use this anchor whenever he is working on high priority project.
Sub-Modalities: Sub-modalities is a powerful discovery by NLP founders. We all store information in form of pictures, sounds or feelings. And these representations have certain attributes. For example a picture can be big/small, color/b&w, bordered/borderless etc. These are called sub-modalities. The founders of NLP discovered that by just changing one or more of the attributes of these representations one can change the feelings associated with those memories. For example, Pavan has stored the memory of a separation as a big color picture in his head and this memory is keeping him worried. By the knowledge of sub-modalities Pavan just has to imagine making the picture small and black & white very rapidly few times and store it in this new format in the deck of archived memories. And next time he tries to recall this memory he won’t be able to have the old sad feelings. He may feel nothing about this memory anymore.
Double dissociation: NLP has the concept of association and dissociation. One can be associated in a memory in his head or store it as dissociated way. Association/Dissociation is a visual sub-modality. If Pavan is associated in a memory and that memory is causing him pain, he can get dissociated from this memory and then store it as dissociated small black & white picture in his mental archive.
Dissociation helps a person watch himself as third person in a picture/movie, even if the picture/movie represents an event in his life. Double dissociation takes this one step forward. The effect of double dissociation is fast and ever lasting. NLP Fast Phobia Cure technique is based upon Double dissociation. Almost every time that I have used this technique on others, the subject had a very vague recall of the memory afterwards and neutral feelings towards the event. In one case the subject wasn’t even able to recall the complete memory in same detail as he was telling couple of minutes back.
Meta-Programs: Meta programs is another powerful NLP discovery. Meta programs are unconscious programs running our lives. Meta-Programs are unique to each person. For example two of the most common meta-programs are towards/away from, big chunk/small chunk. Towards/away-from represent a person’s way of thinking w.r.t a goal. Some people orient themselves towards a positive outcome e.g. working for high bonus, higher salary or promotion. These people fall under towards meta-program category. Others work to avoid poverty and ill-health. These people are using “away from” meta-programs.This is the reason that the management philosophy of giving higher bonuses and raises motivate some people while for others it completely fails. One can make out someone’s dominant meta-programs by just listening to his language. The person can then use this knowledge to motivate the other person suitably.
A person giving a lot of information for every small thing is called “small chunk” and a person giving only big picture for any information requested is called “big chunk”. Hence if you are a small chunk and your boss is a big chunk then you might end up irritating the person while trying to impress him with your talks. One can make out whether the other person is big or small chunk by listening to the quantity and quality of his talks. A big chunk will speak less but his words will be carefully weighted. A small chunk will speak a lot and might blurt out irrelevant information and may need to be repetitively brought to the topic. A small chunk boss may bore the subordinates out if his long talk isn’t motivating or is berating or worse incoherent. Understanding others big/small chunk nature empowers us to fine tune our communication to as per the other person’s meta-program.
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